Ps 61:1-4 says “Hear my cry, O God; Attend to my prayer. From the end of the earth I will cry to You, when my heart is overwhelmed; Lead me to the rock that is higher than I. For You have been a shelter for me, a strong tower from the enemy. I will abide in Your tabernacle forever; I will trust in the shelter of Your wings.”
God lead me to this scripture today as I am fighting thoughts and imaginations that I am struggling with these past few days, weeks, month, and years now. As most of you know, my life as I knew it came crashing down four (4) years ago. My father learned he had a brain tumor shortly before Thanksgiving and had surgery to remove it on December 10, 2014. We learned shortly afterwards that it was the most aggressive brain cancer, GBM. After weeks of healing post op, he began radiation and chemo for a year. We learned at his year check up that the tumor was gone and treatment ceased. Little did we know the tumor would grow back stronger and bigger than before in less than three (3) months. Due to circumstances, my dad no longer had insurance so finding treatment was not very easy nor very fast. My dad lost his battle in August 2016.
At this time, my mom had no income and suffers from medical issues that make working very difficult. So, we applied for disability since she was only 58 at the time and unable to collect dad’s benefits. Of course, we knew this would be a very long process but we did not anticipate how long. She was denied originally, as expected, and we reached out to a local attorney to file the appeal. When mom & I met with the paralegal who would handle preparing our case in January 2017, we were told that hearings were about one (1) year out. So, we waited as patiently as possible but as the months past, it was getting harder and harder on all of us. We had unsuccessfully tried selling mom’s house. I had to take out a second mortgage on my house to support mom and keep her afloat. We were blessed in so many ways but it was still a testing of my faith at times. It was a deep struggle when something extra would happen and I had to wonder how was that going to get paid. The time came though when the money from the second mortgage ran out as the disability hearing took longer than a year. In fact, the hearing was 1 year and 9 months later! She finally was declared disabled and now we still waiting on the back pay she is due and her benefits to begin.
I don’t normally share our personal situation but it’s been very difficult on me and I feel the need to share. Maybe someone else is struggling and needs to read what I am dealing with or maybe it’s the fact that I need to write it out so I can process my own healing and struggles to move forward. Currently, I am still working (2) part time jobs that equate a full time job. I sometimes have to work on the weekends or nights at home for one of my jobs. My husband works full time as well commuting daily a lil more than (2) hours total. Our finances are busted. Paying three (3) mortgages, child support and our own bills has taken its toll. Jeff’s car was totaled in a recent accident. He is ok, but we had to begin the process of finding a replacement with no trade in. He did not have GAP insurance so there was a balance to finance with the new one. Praise God, we finally were able to secure financing. It just seems like one battle after another battle. I am worn out. On top of work and finances, we have a daughter who is mildly autistic and can be a handful. Homework is a huge struggle daily with her. Life can be a huge struggle for her and doesn’t make it any easier on us.
Life is hard. It’s not fair. I ask God often “why me?” I don’t understand why I have to deal with all that I have been handed in life. But, then I am reminded that when I can’t handle it is when I learn to fully trust Him. His Word says He will never leave me nor forsake me. Do I believe it? Days like today, it is hard but I continue holding on to the rope of the life preserver. Even though I feel like I am drowning, I know He has me and I won’t go under.
So today, I cry out as Ps 61 says “Hear my cry, O God; Attend to my prayer. From the end of the earth I will cry to You, when my heart is overwhelmed; Lead me to the rock that is higher than I. For You have been a shelter for me, a strong tower from the enemy. I will abide in Your tabernacle forever; I will trust in the shelter of Your wings”.